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  • Writer's pictureRoxy

Updated: Jan 2

I've had the best day today supporting staff of a primary school with their sleep.

It’s been so amazing to listen and support each of them with all of their different sleep problems.

The biggest take away of the day was JOY

When do you feel it? Where in your day is it built in?

For so many its that huge sigh as we settle into bed at the end of the day, joyous relief with the start of ‘me’ time.

But why?

Why are we going about our days waiting for them to end?

Why don‘t we wake excited to open our eyes and start our day?

Only we are in control of our day, so choose to make it a joyous one!

Wake up 30mins before everyone in the house and get a hot cup of coffee and your book and have that time for yourself, be excited to sip that coffee and find out what happens next in your book.

Take a walk with the dog and get some fresh air if that brings you joy?

Watch a Netflix episode in the morning, instead of at night when your eyes feel like they’re bleeding just to do something for you.

Then during the day try to be mindful and present as you go about your day, feel your feet on the ground, relax your shoulders away from your ears, take some calm deep breaths. Make those pockets of time throughout the day.

We aren't here to only enjoy a tiny part of our day, at the very end when we are exhausted.

It's time to make changes if it is...

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  • Writer's pictureRoxy

It was 3am and I was sitting feeding my baby, crying, so exhausted feeling like my own bedroom was a torture chamber. I was so tempted to put a pillow over my husbands head… how dare he be sleeping when I couldn’t, I was angry at him that he couldn’t help. Why had I chosen to breastfeed? I needed to give up. I needed to be able to hand her over and make sure someone else could feed her and she was getting enough. Surely I wasn’t giving her enough when she feed this often?

People that breastfed didn’t feel tortured like this, did they? I can’t be doing it right. She finished her feed, big plump cheeks dropped away, gorgeous face blissfully resting, milk drunk, so I lay her in her crib and got back into bed with my salty damp cheeks and fell asleep. 45mins later she woke again crying.

Sound familiar?

I look back on that time twelve years ago and can feel every emotion still. It was brutal.

I was a young mum, desperate to do everything ‘right’. I’ve since learnt it doesn’t matter if you’re 21 or 41 we are all desperate for that for some reason. What is ‘right’ is what is ‘right’ for you. Get off that self doubt train. That- ‘society says it should look like this’ mantra needs to be burnt out of your brain.

You do you.

A few days after the night above I was so exhausted I ‘gave up’. I went into survival mode and followed my instincts.

I had been fighting them. I couldn’t surrender.

I wouldn’t co-sleep, I’d be getting it all ‘wrong’ and would create ‘bad habits’, wouldn’t I?

Or would I? How was it wrong if we both slept?

We co-slept.

Suddenly it was so much easier, I could lift her out, feed while lying on my side and fall back to sleep.

We both SLEPT

We were both SO much happier

The ‘right’ way to do it, is your way

Don’t doubt it

  • Writer's pictureRoxy

As International Womens Day draws to an end I feel compelled to thank you all… Every amazing woman in my life. I am so blessed to be surrounded by such incredibly strong women, each full of love, support, encouragement and strength.

Surround yourself with those women.

Seek those women.

The ones who spark joy in your heart.

The ones who make you feel lighter when you leave.

I am so incredibly lucky to have a career supporting other women to walk the path on their parenting journey in a way that they feel is right. There are too many people out there throwing out comments that drag women down, make them doubt themselves and their intuition.

Week in week out I work with fiercely strong women pushing to parent their way, following their gut and intuition.

I support and guide them to reach their goals and I LOVE IT! I love witnessing the new height that woman reaches and how that floods out to their entire family. They are armed with that new knowledge, they are empowered and they share that and build up those around them. 💫

Women are amazing.

You are all incredible 💕

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